“You do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.”

Recommended readings for your therapeutic journey:

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  • “Goals are good for setting a direction, but systems are best for making progress.”

    Atomic Habits

  • "You have the power to change your beliefs about yourself. You have a choice in every moment. You can choose the identity you want to reinforce today with the habits you choose today."

    Atomic Habits

  • “Psychological flexibility is the ability to adapt to a situation with awareness, openness, and focus and to take effective action, guided by your values.”

    The Happiness Trap

  • "If you want to change some part of your reality, you are going to have to change some of your beliefs."

    Addicted To The Monkey Mind

  • "Many of us unconsciously assume that people are judging us when they ask questions or make statements about things we are already ashamed about."

    Addicted To The Monkey Mind

  • "You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life."

    Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

  • "If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment."

    Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

  • “As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.”

    The Body Keeps The Score

  • “Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.”

    The Body Keeps The Score

  • “Most people are only as needy as their unmet needs.”

    Attached.

  • “Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving; anxious people crave intimacy, are often preoccupied with their relationships, and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back; avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.”

    Attached.